In my capacity of a psychotherapist, I have been honored to witness many people's journeys toward a fuller and happier life. On their way, people discover
and build on such qualities as confidence, relatedness, and joy. Here I
offer you my professional and personal opinion on the essentials:
Fourteen Characteristics of a Fully Functioning Person
- Recognizes oneself as a person with intrinsic goodness that deserves respect.
- Feels deserving to have friends, praise, and attention.
- Takes care and shows concern about important others, and at the same time, allows oneself to be cared about.
- Has moments of happiness that provide a stable and continuous quality over long periods of time despite the inevitable moments of feeling of dissatisfaction and unhappiness.
- Expresses oneself openly and is direct with other people in a nonviolent way.
- Knows one's individual qualities and how they are unique.
- Asks for help at the times when needs it the most.
- Shares problem with a trustworthy friends so that people will be able to offer her or him a support or help to feel better.
- Understands reasons for one's difficult moods and assigns meaning to them.
- Focuses on a particular task and makes sure to finish it, despite moments of feeling hopeless, stuck, and a failure.
- Accepts one's own vulnerabilities and weaknesses, and recognizes that anger, sadness, and fear belongs to us in the same way that goodness, joy, and strength do.
- Opens up to new and unknown situations or people that may involve risk and trusts in oneself and people.
- Ensures that she or he has either an enjoyable hobby or a job that provides a sense of fulfillment and competence.
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